To the muslim sisters in abusive relationships.,

Domestic violence does not discriminate – victims span all races, ages, ethnicities and religions.

1 in 4 women are victims of severe domestic abuse, and that includes Muslim women. Islamophobia — hate crimes, bigoted policies and daily incidents of harassment towards the Muslim community has made confronting domestic violence more difficult for these women.

The prophet Muhammed(saw) forbids abuse of any kind. Islam prohibits all forms of oppression and injustice (Qur’an 5:8; 4:135; 42:42-43).

So to be clear,  No! Islam does not encourage or allow men to abuse their wives. Women & Men in Islam are supposed to be equal. Unfortunately, Muslim clerics translate Islamic teachings of arabic text incorrectly, sometimes in an effort to fit their own narratives, which is why our faith is in such turmoil.

I implore those who are interested, to truly learn more about Islam with an open heart & mind so that we can fight the misguided notions and wrong information being circulated.

Educate yourself so that you can be sensible enough to pick sense from nonsense.

No one deserves to be ill-treated based on their sex, the way they look, lifestyles or beliefs.

No one has the right to physically, emotionally, mentally or financially abuse or manipulate someone, and using culture or religion to justify it does not make it right or acceptable.

While Islam teaches that God dislikes divorce, it is not prohibited. When we say

bi-smi llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīmⁱ, we are saying “In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. God is merciful – The Qur’an clearly prohibits injustice and oppression and has provided divorce as a peaceful solution (See Qur’an 2:227-242; 4:19 -21; 65: 1-8). The Prophet Muhammad married a woman who had been divorced, reinforcing the acceptability of divorce within the Muslim community.

Children are greatly impacted by witnessing abuse between their parents, be it physical, verbal or emotional abuse.  Growing up in an abusive home does long term damage to children and can affect their personality, their ability to study, and their future relationships.

It is more important for children to live with a healthy parent who can be a good role model than to grow up in a climate of fear and anxiety when one or both parents are abusive.

Abusers only do so because they are the powerless. In reality targets of abuse are more powerful than the person who abuses them. It may not be easy to leave, but nothing worthy in life is ever easy.

If you are a Muslim woman in an abusive relationship I want you to know that you have more help and support than you may know.  Please reach out to resources below to get the help, assistance and information you need.

There is no need to be ashamed. It is not your fault. You are beautiful, You are smart, & You are strong.

tpny.org Turning Point’s Helpline for Women 718.262.8722 or 718-262-8744

Turning Point is committed to helping Muslim women empower themselves and live a life with dignity,  free of violence.

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